Zen is a way of being. It also is a state of mind.
As we all start to shift our focus to the new week, I thought I’d post about something I’ve been meaning to write about for a while. Had I just been less stressed this week, I might have gotten this post out sooner. This topic has been on my mind for a few weeks now - Ways to de-stress, to live with zen.
It all started when I went and got a massage a couple weeks ago – I had a very intuitive massage therapist, and she talked to me for a while about letting go of my anxieties on a daily basis. Everyone has them – the things that keep streaming through your head at night, or the daily matters that make your shoulders slowly creep up to your ears throughout the course of the day. I went to the spa to de-stress for that day, and what I found was the whole topic of finding ways to unwind brought to the forefront of my mind.
It’s so important to take time out of our busy schedules to make sure we are doing ok – that we’re healthy, and in the right state of mind, living with the right attitude towards life. It’s only when we put ourselves first that the rest of it falls into place – our relationships, family & friends, work, fun, balance.
So I started compiling ideas, and trying these items throughout the past couple weeks. I think it’s the appropriate time to share them as we embark on not only this new week, but the holiday season, which can sometimes become the most stressful of times for even the most peaceful of people.
I started thinking about things to do and found myself organizing them into 3 levels – things to do daily, weekly, and monthly. The common thread? In order to de-stress it should be about you. Chatting with a friend doesn’t count, as much fun that that is – that’s not "you time".
Daily
Find a ritual to put into your daily routine that allows you to unwind . It can be as small as an afternoon cup of tea that helps soothe your worries (my recent personal favorite), reading a good book or listening to music that takes your mind off work / day to day tasks, or setting 20-30 min aside each day to do what you enjoy – anything that you personally find detoxifying: writing in a journal, some exercise, a walk with the pooch.
Weekly
Think about what you wish you had time for, and then carve out the time to do it (Sundays a great day to start planning out the week). A bubble bath? Make it a Sunday night ritual. A manicure? Set aside time during your week to make sure it happens. For me, it’s a good home-cooked meal. Sure, I cook *simple* recipes during the week but on the weekends is when I like to stretch myself in this realm. I choose a recipe that sounds challenging and tackle it. The husband enjoys the outcome and I enjoy the therapeutic process of peeling the veggies, prepping the kitchen, and making a great meal. I realize this may sound like torture to some - - and that’s why this is all about making it your own. :)
Monthly
This can be a bit more challenging, since it’s not on a daily or weekly basis you need to make sure to plan ahead so it doesn’t slip through the cracks. Think of something you long to do, then schedule it in! A monthly museum exploration, a massage, a few hours on a hobby you’ve been meaning to do / try… In the city, I’ve found the activity of doing a city walk and window shopping recharges my batteries and gives me the sense of independence I like to maintain. Getting out on my own into the elements, putting foot to pavement, and discovering - is liberating to me.
The more you think about living holistically, de-stressing and maintaining healthy living, the easier it becomes. Share with me the things you do to unwind, and I’ll check back later with a post to further ideas.
Have a stress free week!